thanks-to everyone that has replied so far. my own views aren't as set in stone at the moment vs. a year ago. i truly believe that it is unfair to bring a child into this world without adequate stability...but i think it must be because the father's sister is pregnant also..and is due around the same time. i dont know if i can look at her baby without thinking of my own, if lost. with either direction, there is doubt and uncertainty of our mental health for years to come. the father and i have good jobs and are done with the initial aspects of school..we just were always the type who where going to be the spoiling aunt and uncle whod travel and do charity work for the rest of our lives... then poof..suddenly a part of me wants to see this baby's face. do any of you think that having a baby when a man is not ready is the kind of pressure that can be detrimental to a relationship? i know it sounds selfish...but i read that a lot of women feel pressured by men to have abortions even if the men don't say it out loud. i believe that its my body...but i owe him the respect of giving him 1/2 the decision. im stressing out sooo much trying to make the decision that ends with the happiest results...im having pregnancy complications already.