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Originally Posted by LadyJane71
I guess I exaggerated for the sake of giving someone else some 'cheerup' advice. i just identified with her frustration and I suppose I was saying what I wanted to hear myself, I don't know
The latter post is accurate. The way I described my ex bf in the first post is much more like my husband actually is.
This whole recent issue between us has been enlightening for me, I have had to confront lying to myself about his performance in bed, but don't get me wrong, it wasn't anything that would've broken us up, it's his insane fetish that could..
Whenever sex talk came up on a girls night out or something I always exaggerated my husbands ability and my own satisfaction and I don't know why, it's like I'm embarrassed for him or us.
It's why I joined this forum, to finally talk about it plainly as I'm still unable to talk to even my closest friend about it and there I was lying still in my first post.
Thanks for bringing it to my attention, it was kind of an eye opener has to how far I'd gone with the charade.
I hope you understand.
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Is it possible that you have both lived in some form of fantasies for a while and consequently you were writing as a "third person" therefore, sort of in a fantasy of it all to make yourself happy pertaining to the first thread?
If so, then i assume your second thread is accurate to how your now feeling.
And, if so, it's only really lying to yourself to gain satisfaction and feel good which has to come out to reality, so things needs to be sorted in that regard.
I guess it would be difficult and i think actually wrong, to discuss his errection problems let alone fetishes with your girlfriends, only because they will talk about him behind your back, and show it probably in their faces if you are at a function together as a group... and the advice will be based on friendships rather than opinions.
No need to be sorry, your faced with a slight delima.
I am sure you've asked yourself this question... What does Ladyjane71 want?
You should not feel you owe anything to him, just because he's your husband so you bend to his wishes, in the end.
You are your own woman and i'm glad that he ended up jealous of what he created however, he's obviously insecure about himself and maybe his way of not losing you but then it's become an obsession to a huge extent.
Personally, he does need sex therapy...
CW