Good luck!!! And much love!!! Isn't the world amazing? There are people out there who don't even know you and want to help! You'll find that this is true spiritually too. Remember to pray and you'll have the help you need- when you need it. God loves you and your family! Sorry, one more thing. You can't change someone else they have to want too. ya ya ya but you can focus on facilitating change. You can put cool sayings on your walls, (easy repetition) you can be loving (tough and sensitive), you can focus on things going right (by your thoughts and actions and example) You know how an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure? Well work smarter on him by spending more thought on how to help things go right then on how to fix things that he ambiguously does. You can't loose unless you give up. But remember he has to want to change. He holds the key to his own change, but men will do amazingly difficult things for a woman. The woman just needs to spend her thinking time 80% on how to make things go right and 20% on what went wrong. HUGS!!! Good luck!