How many people have said "change the locks" including myself? I think what that does is puts you in control of his comings and goings, but more importantly sends a message of I'm not going to take your Bovine excrimate. (you can say what you want here, but you have use bigger words to do it ) I deserve better and I will create better for myself as you've opted to be a baby. It's ONE WAY to say your behavior is NOT OKAY with me and rather than to put up with it I'm choosing something better for me and my girls.