I have heard change the locks. But the thing is I am a SAHM and he has agreed to pay all of the bills until I graduate. And what I am about to say is going to upset several people if not a lot. This is his house and this is his home. I know my husband very well and the person that he is lately is the result of something beyond me. Depression/BiPolar something. I am not going to file for separation or anything like that. I have been with him for 14yrs and I am not going to go that route within a month of all of this occuring. I don't like what he did and I feel disrespected from it all. Beyond that. I don't know if this sounds like a weak wife or what but I am far from that. This is the first time that he has done something this extreme. If I had some sort of break down I would like to have at least one chance to redeem myself. He deserves more than a fleeting emotion. What I am going to do is concentrate on myself and my girls. I will experience each moment and come out of all of this as a better person. There are times when I am very strong towards him and times where I am vulnerable. I guess that is what makes me human. Hopefully as time passes more strong moments will evolve. But as I said before this has just happened.