I think it is time to explore and experiment a little.

You obviously feel there is something missing and want to experience an orgasm with him. It might be a good starting point to explore your own body, If you grew up thinking women were non sexual you may have missed out on doing this, I'm only guessing, which is how young teens start to build their sexual desire and know what they like.

Try some new things with him too. Get him to give you oral sex. If you haven't experienced this before I would be surprised if it doesn't get you feeling more sexual. You are going to have to try and let go of your thoughts of being non sexual though. You can do this maybe by looking at visual sexual stimula, magazines, porn movies etc. you may be saying ew! but just try it.

Sometimes dressing sexy can get you in the mood.

It sounds like your husband wants to take you 'there' , but may not be that experienced himself. You can learn about what makes your body tick together. You can look at it as being frustrating, and I'm sure it is in a way, but try to see it as a new journey and adventure you are going on together.

Good luck and have fun with it.

tt