Anon - great thread about torture- but drifting off topic - happy to take it elsewhere (though I think I agree with you).

I also agree that finding a keylogger, a hired PI, or any other direct spying would result in an instant filing for divorce - far more so than finding my wife in bed with the plumber AND the electrician would.

I maintain that if your trust has deteriorated to the point where you need to spy, the relationship is over - it is time to find a equitable and legal settlement. Once you start spying, you will eventually find something, why go through all the pain and time.

Of course if you are spying just to collect evidence for a divorce case - that is rational, though unethical in my personal opinion. (I won't argue the unethical - just that it would be for me).