Being an unwed mother myself I don't think it matters if you are legally married. What matters is that there is a healthy emotional bond between the parents that can be shared with the child. The only problem I can see with having a child now is the monetary issue of an upcoming wedding. If both you and your partner want a child and can afford to both raise a child and pay for a wedding the more power to you My daughter will be 2 in a couple of months and we are expecting the newest addition to our family in early 2009 and still not married. Like the previous poster said its more a personal preference or religious view than anything else. Best of Luck in whatever you choose!!