I would agree with Chandlers Wish. You are running around in circles trying, trying, trying to find who you are, when in realty, you have know clue. Before starting another relationship, you should have cut all ties to your husband. I can understand that you have been with this man ever since you was 17 and he is the father of your daughter but, you are playing mind games with your husband, daughter, this new man and yourself. I can understand that times get hard between you and your husband and that you feel like you've grown apart. Work on being the BEST YOU, you can be. That would mean not being involved with anyone until you get yourself together first. Know yourself before you start to know anyone else. Your daughter is watching everything that is going on between you and her father. How do you think this makes her feel? She is having a hard enough time trying to figure this out. Please take yourself out of the equation and think about others instead of yourself.