I'm frustrated, but more importantly she's frustrated because she's never reached orgasm. Please please please help us!

Past:
-I'm her 2nd lover
-with her 1st she only enjoyed sex once and never orgasmed, apparently everytime they had sex which was roughly ten times it hurt like for her.
-she's never done anything more sexual, than oral and sex in standard positions.
-She's barely ever masterbated... maybe like 5 times she says and she's never reached orgasm. She feels awkard doing it.

Present:
-We have sex whenever we get alone time so about 2-3 times a week.
-I live with my parents so its hard to find that alone time
-She says sex feels very good with me, and enjoys it with me than when she did it with her ex.
-Absolutely, loves me going down on her before sex, i try to stimulate her g-spot by doing the "Come here" motion, while licking, kissing, and sucking her clit.
-I have a very hard time finding her clit... I can barely feel it... i dont even know that its there... I generally lick and kiss the area where it should be.
-She loves me touching her legs, her body, playing with her nipples/breasts, sucking her neck etc.
-she loves me grabbing her bum and legs while i'm thrusting.
-I can last long, sometimes so long that I can't even cum because of my ability to control it.

Future:
-we're thinking about getting a vibrator for her clit while i have sex with her, and some lube.
-Also i order "The Science of Orgasm" off amazon and hope that helps.



Please please help me! I love her so much and i want her to experience an orgasm and I don't know what to do!