Hi Dontfeellikeit,
Welcome to the forum. I am new to WH and am enjoying it throughly. I hope you get the help you need.
I had the same problem as you 3 years ago 'lack of desire'. My hubby talked to me about my lack of desire and I just thought he was being weird because sex is overrated. But after he told me what effect it had on him, I had to change. I had to pretend in the beginning, but after a several of weeks, he started to have a bump in his walk and I was actually not minding sex. Now I can't live 3 days without getting some.
This one is hard so long as you think negatively about sex. Below are just a couple of things I did to get my desire back.
1. It all starts in the mind. On a daily basis, think about the goodness and pleasure that you can give to your partner and derive from sex. Think about the oohs and the ahhs you feel. Think sexy thoughts about yourself.
I changed my lingerie and basic underwear to make me feel sexy.
The mind plays a pivotl role in changing your life, including sex. You have to change your way of thinking.
2. Teach yourself to intiate sex. That way you will be committing to pleasuring him and forcing yourself to desire him e.g. text him lustful/sexy messages during the day. If he initiates, try to want him as much as you can.
3. Create sex surprises for him. This way, he will know that you have been thinking about him and desiring him. For example, give him a blow job or just rub him erotically whilst driving home from a dinner (or before the dinner!!!).
You have to draw from your inner self to conquer this permanently. I hope the above helps you in whatever way.
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