Trialbyfire...I'm guessing if my wife was in your situation, she'd probably have (what we call in the south) a HISSIE FIT! Then she'd probably start crying, and somehow I'd figure out how to make her laugh it off. I'd probably do that crazy Marty Feldman-like thing with my eyes...or something that would take her away from the HECK she was enduring at the moment...or maybe not, but I'd at least give it a try.
Probably the biggest thing to counteract all of what you're feeling is to find a way to really laugh at something. I mean something so doggone funny, you just can't help but laugh at it. Whatever you really think is funny, then involve yourself in that for a short while. That should make you feel better (at least a little).
Another thing is to go to a pet store and hang around the puppies for a while. It's hard to feel like killing somebody when you just had a puppy go to sleep in your arms and you see that sweetness.
Anyway, I did mean what I said - when I said that I'd be your friend. And as far as being full of Jesus, I'm really not (although I'd like to be in some ways). I just thought that maybe He was the one who had me respond to your post.
Cheers! <~~~I mean that too! Maybe you need a little drinky-poo?!?!