Congrats on the epiphany. I love it when I get those. Well when there a good atleast. sounds like me in a way I was a reble to but now that i am thinking of having children I know I want to give them a world I didnt knoe until I met my husbands family. My mom may be insulted that I would chose to raise my children the my mother-in-law has but I dont care. My childrens future doesnt rest on the fact that my mom tryed her best it rest on my DOING mine. Thanks for the insight. It is alway nice to hear it. keep it coming.