I never wanted to have children. I guess I just never felt like I had that mothering instinct, I don't know why really. I've been married twice, my first marriage ended right before I turned 30. I came really close to making the decision to have a child even though I knew I was NOT happy in that marriage. Thank the lord I never missed a pill or changed my mind to go through with it. I ended up leaving and have never regreted it one minute. To think if I had to see my ex for at least 18 years or so until the child grew up just makes me sick to my stomach. I infact on saw him one time after the day I left and that was by accident. That was 17 years ago. I met my current husband in 1991 and he had 3 sons. They lived 3 hours ago and didn't come up to visit too much. They['re all grown now. I love them but they have their own issues and two of them refuse to become responsible adults they're ages 29 and 33.

I have never once regretted not having children. I have a nephew I love like my own. I have friends and family. I don't feel like anything is missing. I"m 46 and going thru menapause and I'm not unhappy at all aabout it. You need to follow your own heart/mind. I new in my heart I should not have married my first husband, but at the time we had beentogether for a couple of years and I didn't want to hurt his feelings!!!! wow that was dumb, I was just miserable for about 7 years of my life. Listen to yourself.