You must realize that you are a parent until the day you die. Everything that happens to your children, if you are a normal parent, will affect you. When they are nice, sweet, successful adults, you will be blessed. But when they are troubled, lost, ill, unhappy, needing money, arrested, divorced, etc, you will experience the heartache. I read once that Ann Landers (I think) took a survey of people with grown children. The were asked if they had a choice, would they still have had children. Seventy percent said NO!

That could be because raising children in the modern world is so hard!

It could also be that the respondents looked at their friends who did not have children and saw what carefree, child-like lives they led for themselves. lol

Whatever you choose, you will have times of regret and times of gladness.

good luck!