Look, from my experience, when I 'abandonned' my family for my ex, it was very very lonely. He was my whole world. As time went by, we grew apart because I was his shadow. I was no longer the girl he fell in love with and he was no longer my knight in shining armor. Basically, I took on his identity in a way. I felt trapped. Kids came along. It got worse. Look, Jenny, my advice to you is that you don't do what I did. You still have your life. Get a job. Don't worry about what kind. As long as it keeps you happy and satisfied. Get yourself a car. Call up your friends for support. Make dates with them to keep up on eachothers lives. Don't lose touch with your family. Because in the event that something bad should happen, you are gonna want them there.