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Hank and Win are another interesting
case.
The marriage was up and down, Win's
inexperience not allowing her to realise
she was an abused wife until Hank beat
her up.
After that, Win learned how to avoid being
hit, and developed a plan to leave Hank.
With his knowledge and as a 'joke', Win
applied to a University far away. She acted
as if she didn't want to go when she was
accepted, betting that as he always did the
opposite of what she desired, her 'reluctance'
would provoke him to push her.
She was correct.
While at University she met a number
of people, one of them was Otis, who
treated her like a queen.
She had no intention of being unfaithful.
Otis was just another person.
However, Hank's long distance behaviour
designed to hurt her, reaped an unexpected
result.
After a particular traumatic phone call from
Hank, in 'defiance' Win took Otis to bed.
Win's behaviour had become reactions to
Hank's actions. As he was a very controlling
abusive man, who had whittled away her
sense of self, she had reached the stage where
she didn't act, she reacted.
Otis qua Otis was not really her type, he had
just been there, and had just treated her the
way she would like.
Her adultery with Otis broke the 'control'
Hank had over her, and though the marriage
ended badly, it ended.
Years later, Win would reflect that had Hank
sent her nice letters, or made a pleasant call,
she probably would still be married to him.
Win's Adultery with Otis was her way to
hurt Hank.
Using Adultery as a weapon is not uncommon.
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