whoa there, problems in a marriage are almost never caused by just one person. Its easy to say he did this or she did that. Bit it takes two to tango or to divorce. It is true that most married men will never leave their wife. they stay because of any or some or all of the following: finances, children, community PC, work perceptions, being scared of ending up alone, and sometimes really wanting to fix what is wrong at home but not sure how to do it. forget who is at fault and what happened in the past. unless you see something happening now and that it has a real chance of lasting, be your own best friend and just move on.