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While in Law School, the need to distance certain
emotional issues was vital. I could not be sitting
in the library thinking about personal problems.
There were two trees way on a hill which jutted
up discordantly.
I taught myself that every time certain thoughts
came into my mind I would look at the trees.
I would look at the trees and tell myself that I
would deal with the problem later, and then turn
back to my book.
At first it was almost a whiplash, because I had
to keep turning to the trees, keep telling myself
to deal with the problem later.
After a time I turned less frequently, and eventually,
not at all.
I had made that kind of mental suggestion which
took over my Id.
When you don't have a life and death choice to
make this second, postpone it to after coffee...
to bedtime, to Saturday, in the wonderful words
of Scarlett O'Hara, "I'll think about that tomorrow".
Tomorrow tends to take care of itself.
Issues tend to resolve without the slightest input.
People move, change, you move, you change,
things change, ideas change, change is part of
life.
Simply find something in your environment that
can act as my two trees, and tell yourself to
think about it after the semester/thesis/doctorate
is completed.
At first it sounds like a 'cop out', but it is not.
Doing your work right now is priority. Relationships
between people is secondary. Once you have
completed your work, then relationships can be
analysed.
Now, your analysis should be on your work.
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