I have 2 neices ages 7 and 10. The 7 yr old wants to do everything the 10yr old does because she looks up to her big sister. My sister and I are 10 yrs apart so we had similar issues but the age gap was much larger so she got stuck raising me. The point is this, they do love each other but it can be overwhelming. What I do with my nieces is take the oldest one and explain that I need her help because she is older and needs to be the example for the younger one. I give her what I call big girl tasks to help Auntie and it makes her have more patience for the younger one. Now with three it is trickier. You then have to make the middle child feel the same about the youngest so they are all helping each other and all feel as though they each have important adult like responsibilites. I do special things with both of my nieces separately so they each have alone time. I am sure with 3 again it will be harder but it works trust me. Its like reverse physcology but on their level and everyone feels important. Hope it helps.
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