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The words may be different, the reaction is not.
The male says something designed to cause the
female emotional anguish.
It could be anything, the purpose is to reduce her
to tears and console her.
His victory, his joy, is to be able to say something
which will cut her like a knife. His victory, his joy,
is to be the strong arms which console her.
If she gets angry, marches out, leaves him, he
loses. And he will then devote every breath to
getting her back.
Not because he loves her, but because he can
not lose.
Usually, he has judged well. He has so twisted
her emotions that she can not pull back and
think...'what in am I doing in bed with this
creep?'....
Why?
She feels guilty and beholden to him.
Guilty because she didn't love him as much as
he loved her. Beholden, because his courting
behaviour was so elaborate that she can only
feel 'unworthy' of such affection.
She has not yet found her feet in this whirlwind
relationship, while he seems to know exactly what
he wants.
In any situation, where one party knows what he
or she wants and the other is uncertain, the one
who knows takes the initiative.
He is the rock, she is the river. She flows, he
stands.
His words were designed to test his emotional
hold over his wife. If successful, that is reducing
her to tears, he knows he has the power.
Emotional abuse is the first step in the Domestic
Violence process.
Domestic Violence is a process. It is not an action.
It is a process in which the wife is reduced to a
victim who, in many ways, is made a co-conspirator
in her abuse.
It doesn't happen over night.
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