It would be, i agree, excepting that my Mother had a friend for years and years, and one day she got pregnant.
Firstly, her husband cheated on her, so that was an ordeal and my Mother was there by her side, they used to play basketball, umpire together so did both the spouses, so it was a weekly event and after they would go to one or the other's home and have dinner, a drink... They even came on holidays with us, kind of "Aunty" Chris...
As we got older, it was more like "sister" than adopted Aunty.
But as the child started growing up, "Chris" would give him everything he wanted..her husband didn't quite agree, and my Mother "voiced" her opinion over and over of her dis-agreement.. It made it difficult to visit, because it was annyoing and they couldn't have "me time".
In the end "Chris" just simply stopped calling my Mother. Just like that. Their friendship departed. I think they had 17 years between them..
The boy left home and went to my Father's work asking if he could use the bathroom, kitchen and sleep in the loft..
That was around 20 years ago and they still haven't spoken. My Mother sent Christmas Cards to start with, they passed each other at shops and civilly said "hello" but that was it.
My Mother was asking what did I do wrong. All I could say was "Mum, it's her choice her child, you kept interfering telling her how to raise him"...
If you value your friendship you have to butt out, and possibly go less and use excuses for that, and find another way of communication, via Internet or phone to make up for those times, until that child is older, or you will possibly end up like my Mother did, without her "best friend"..
CW
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And when someone breaks our wings....
We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick...
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