01-28-2007, 09:07 PM
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The Mirror
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Many victims of abuse do not realise their situation.
Once they do, the hardest task is to regain what
can be called a 'normal' perceptive.
If you grew up in a house where people kissed
each other good bye, you would find it perfectly
normal. If you grew up in a house where the
people were distant, then you would see this
as a pecular custom.
The same with abuse.
Once you recognise the situaiton you are in is
not normal, and you begin to locate 'normal' and
teach yourself 'normal', you can disassociate
yourself from your situation.
This kind of detachment is necessary to leave
abuse. You must first understand your position
before you can escape it.
Changing an abusive husband is impossible.
Nothing works.
Counselling is a bandaid.
It might seem to work for a time, because the
wife avoids every possible 'trigger', but one day
he will revert, because he can not feel good about
himself unless he makes her feel bad.
Escaping the relationship is the only option.
How you do it, is the key feature.
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