thanks to all for the advice and the responses. we actually had a really great talk last night. i think that finally addressing my feelings motivated me to be honest about how i felt about the whole situation. i shouldn't have been surprised to find out that he was very willing to listen and work with me. i am confident that we will work through this. there will be good days and bad days, but we can do it.
also, about our intimacy, it is actually great. i know that men like different and exciting, and i do a good job keeping it fresh, and he does his fair share as well :-)
i do have one more quesiton tho, any women who might have an answer, but especially if there are any men out there reading...he says that the appeal of porn is that it is always different, and that there is absolutely no appeal to the women other than as sex objects. (and he is not the type to use women, he said it's just the best description of the motivation) i guess it's good that there's not like one woman he keeps looking up, but is that a natural thing for a man to enjoy? he says he loves me and that we have passion which is different than lust, which is what men experience with porn. is this natural?
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