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Too many mothers seem to raise babies, not people.
Babies grow up. They become children.
Let me show Bobbie what is in her future.
Baby will demand and cry and get. Baby won't want
to go anywhere and do anything where she is not the
centre of attention.
Baby will not want to go to school. She will cry and
demand Mommy take her home. If Mommy doesn't
take her home she will cry and fuss in the class,
disturbing other children.
Othere children, who don't know they are to pander
to Baby will dislike Baby and treat her badly.
Baby will think everything is her's and grab another
child's crayon. Other child will punch Baby, and
take back Crayon.
Baby will tell Mommy who will come up to school
to find out why teacher let's other children punch
Baby.
All the other children will say that no one punched
Baby that Baby fell off of chair.
Baby will learn how much everyone dislikes her.
She will become more bratty, more lonely and
unhappy.
No one will befriend Baby. Because Baby thinks
the world belongs to Baby.
As Baby grows up and becomes a miserable lonely
child, she will probably start to eat to compensate.
Other parents will keep their children away from
Baby saying; "No matter what Baby does, Mommy
upholds her, so I don't want her playing with my
kids."
When I was a child...I was the one who punched
William in the face when he took my crayon. All
the other kids insisted that William fell. I was
going to admit it, as I was the smallest kid in
the class and William was the biggest...but no
one listened to my squeaky voice.
William, by the way, drank from a nipple bottle
when he entered Kindergarten.
No one played with William and my parents
as well as the parents of all my friends, told
us to stay away from William.
So we all did.
When William entered Junior High he was
really fat and whiney. He was always saying
he was sick and the teacher would call his
mother who would come up to take him home.
He did really bad so was in dunce class.
When I grew up and became a mother I was
very upset at how the father spoiled the first
one, making the same mistakes that you make
with your daughter.
Alway carrying him around, always spoiling him...
then...at when the father found something else
to do, the baby was 'abandoned'. No one but
Daddy would do, but Daddy wasn't there anymore.
I would mark all the problems the First one has
to this 'overlove' then 'abandonment' by the
Father.
The little one..(middle one's give no trouble)
was spoiled, I admit that...but not to the extent
of your child.
Aware that because she was so pretty, (she
became a fashion model later in life) people would
pander to her, I was especially careful not to give
her more than other children got, and was very
strict.
She learned to be very good with other children
and although they spoiled her, (she was always
picked to be Sleeping Beauty or Cinderella or
whatever fantasy required princesses or pretty)
but she was very generous and friendly.
Had I not recognised the errors the Father made
with the First One, I surely would have duplicated
them with Baby.
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