The problem with contacting parents is that his parents might not care (or equally bad, they might be the type to overreact in an abusive manner. After all, this child obviously has problems interacting with others and understanding his sexuality and that has to come from somewhere.) Telling them in either of these situations would be less than delicate, despite the fact that it is conventionally "appropriate."
How culpable do you feel your daughter is in these actions? Could you call his texts sexual harassment, or was she "comfortable?" Knowing how she feels about it has a lot of bearing on how you can proceed. If she feels harassed or pressured, you can help her help herself. If she was a willing participant, then you really need to have a sit-down talk about how she should conduct herself with her peers.
I am certain that middle schoolers are put in these situations much more often than adults would like to believe, but just because it's common doesn't mean it's right or necessary. Good on you for wanting to correct it before it gets into your daughter's head.
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