Even if you have a hard time believing in the healthy body idea, you can still act as though you want it.
It's impossible to be anorexic if you meet your body's caloric and nutritional needs, as well as maintaining a healthy body weight. Even if you still believe that an anorectic body is what you need in life.
So if you have trouble buying into the idea that you can be satisfied with your body... try good old-fashioned behavior change: "live it until you believe in it".
Because anorexia is a learned belief system, you can unlearn it. Sometimes the best way to change what you believe is to act according to the new belief. For example, consider how a person would act if they fully believe the following: "I feel great at any weight" or "I'm an attractive person" or "I'm happy to be healthy." In contrast, consider how a person would act if they fully believe, "I have to be thin in order to feel good." Sound familiar? Acting on that belief only makes it seem more true.
The trick is to decide on a more healthy belief system. Then figure out how to act so that you'll start to believe differently.
This will involve a) maintaining a healthy body weight while b) proving to yourself in other ways that you can have a satisfying life (e.g., being socially active, bringing back old hobbies, reaching out and helping others, or anything else that gives your life zest and meaning). Both of these new behaviors are essential if you want to think differently about your body image.
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