I'm a big fan of journaling. Start writing, get some of this out of your system. Having done that so your thoughts are a little more organized, sit down and write as if to him about how you feel, get it out and on to paper. Then write as if it is coming from him - what you want to hear from him.
Take all that and burn it. Let it go with the smoke.
Write your forgiveness. You forgive and you move on. You don't have to send it, unless you really want to. This is about letting go and reclaiming yourself not about drawing him into a dialog.
Start writing regularly. What is good about this new guy? What is good about you and your life, what happened today and how did you feel about it? This will give you an outlet for your feelings, a chance to examine them without dumping them all over someone else. Often we get hyper emotional under stress and say things that would have been better left alone because almost as soon as they leave our lips we release them and they lose their importance, except having put them on someone else, we still have to deal with it. Writing it gives you time to think a bit and clarify to yourself. I think you'll find it a big help.
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