I use to be just like you, I was so afraid of looking rediculous that I preferred to sit in the corner and observe and watch other people having fun. The thought of standing up in front of people freaked me out to panic attack proportions.
He should be understanding and accept where you are at right now with social situations as it may be that you always feel that way. I hope for your sake though that you let go and learn to laugh at yourself and be a participator in life rather than just the audience member.
I spent so much time worrying what people would think of me that I let that inhibit my chance at fun. I'd watch girls sing horrible , HORRIBLE karoke while everyone cheered on , everyone having a good time and wonder why I couldnt just let go. Finally, and it was really an overnight thing , I just decided to stop watching and start doing. Anything. Dancing in front of people, singing, asking loud questions. I didn't let my inabilities and insecurity stop me from at least trying.. if even to make a fool of myself.
I am enjoying life so much more, and I think the people in my life are enjoying ME more too now that I am comfortable with me. I already know I am gonna spill a drink on myself, I know I am probably going to laugh so hard I might snort, I know I am going to start a conversation and lose track of what I initially wanted to say and ramble into oblivion trying to save face. And I don't care.
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Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein
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