I sometimes feel this way about my wife. I think the best way I can put it is that I would like her to WANT me, not to NEED me. To me there is a basic difference.
If she NEEDs me, then I am sort of hostage - I need to stay with her because she couldn't go on without me, and she is with me because she can't live otherwise. Way too much pressure. She feels like a ball and chain that I can't escape (even if I don't want to escape)
If she WANTs me then we are in the relationship because we are both happy and enjoy each other. Then I don't feel chained, I fell that I am with her becuase it makes me happy (which it does).
I know this isn't really clear, but its the best I can put it in words.
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