If he is not affectionate as you say, he doesn't hold hands, snuggle etc and isn't sexual either, that must be a pretty lonely situation for you. If he did one or the other ONLY it would be difficult enough but not doing either is pretty selfish. You have needs for intimacy, including but not limited to sex.
Hugging and cuddling is so good for the soul, human touch is crucial for humans to be healthy both physically and emotionally. He is is denying you the basic human contact you'd give to a pet, because they, like humans need closeness and affection too. Everyone does.
Of course a lot of men say they don't like cuddling but doors closed, most really do. Its hard for me to imagine someone not getting pleasure out of having their body pressed up against the one they love.
He needs to give in, in one of those ways. If he has no drive he could still satisfy you in other ways or hold you close and kiss on you while you satisfy yourself. Or provide you with oral/manual/toy sex and hold you afterwards. There is so much he can do with or without a drive to satisfy your emotional/physical and sexual needs for intimacy.
How does he express his love to you?
What are the things he does that make you feel loved?
Or DO you even feel loved?
What are the things about him that make you happy? If you walked out today, what would you miss the most?
You mention that he loves you and him you, but also mention he doesn't touch you, give affection or have sex with you so I am just really curious in what ways you get to express that love and have it expressed to you.
You guys really need to sit down and have a heart to heart or write him a letter. Letting him know how you feel, how you miss the closeness you once had (I am assuming it must have been there at some point)
As an aside a low libido could be an indicator of other and way more serious health problems, if he doesn't want to go to a dr to fix his drive, he should still go to make sure he is okay. If the blood isn't flowing right to his sex organ, chances are its not flowing right to other organs.
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Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein
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