I really appreciate that post! It was very nice. Yes, I do think he is a caring man and hopefully will come around at least for our daughter's sake. I have been in counseling for the past like 6 years, although I haven't found a new therapist since mine retired in Dec. of last year because she had cancer. I need to find one that won't just judge my situation because I have seen those types before and it isn't helpful at all. Yes, I do belive in God even though I don't have a church that I attend. I do trust in God and that I will make it through it, but it is hard for me to believe that even though it is a "sin" that God would have allowed us to fall in love and create an innocent child if it wasn't meant to be. I know we all have "free will", but I don't think that my being with him was and "accident or mistake" I really thought we were meant for each other, we have always felt a deeper connection, like we had always known each other, ya know? I just hope that he doesn't feed into the "guilt" of being a "sinner" for this because guilt does not solve anything and it doesn't make it go away either! We have been here for 3 years and I refuse to just disapear like I'm sure his family is hoping for. I just hope and pray he told her the whole truth about being in love and having a baby, although at this point I am not thinking he did, at least not yet. I'm sure he didn't want to "kill" her with it all at once, even though that would have been easier I think. Like you said, only time will tell, and his actions will speak louder than words. I hope his actions and words happen sooner vs. later and are nicer than the 2.5 seconds on the phone on Mon. because that was devastating. Please say a prayer for me I need all of them I can get!