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Originally Posted by blondie80
M&Ms - The best you can do is change your belief and attitude toward sex. If loving him is more important than having physical intimacy.
I can understand this to a degree, you can change your beliefs to a degree to suit the situation that you are in, it is what changes the foundations of a relationships but at the end of the day everyone has wants and needs, you cant change someone but you expect someone to change you?? How does this discussion work?
I think in a situation like this it should be about compramise if one person is getting everything they want out of a relationship and the other is getting nothing it really isnt much of a relationship is it. He may be having a hard time with stress and things like that and it could just be something simple, and yes then that changes the dynamics and maybe a little more patience needs to be baught in but if it is something that is really important to one and not important at all to the other there needs to be compramise to a degree otherwise one is really unhappy in the relationship and eventually build up resentment frustration and everything will fall apart.
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Someone else wouldn't be forcing you to change yourself if you were the one who expected them to change in the first place. Unless the individual did a complete reversal in their behavior during the relationship, causing you to perceive a disappointing difference in them, how do you expect them to work around your needs? If the individual DID do a complete reversal (for example, in the situation of the starter of this thread: if the bf had been very sexually active with her in the beginning of the relationship and then all of a sudden quit), then yes, I definitely agree with you on the requirement for a compromise. When I posted my response, the thread starter hadn't indicated whether her partner had frequent sex with her near the beginning of their relationship.