You have been together 5 years. Has he been faithful? Has he been making you feel loved? Does he make you happy? I am guessing yes because you still want to marry him.
If the relationship is great and you are happy, don't listen to family and friends saying to dump him without the ring... why go and settle for less from some guy you don't love just because he's willing to put a ring on your finger.
This guy obviously loves you or he wouldnt still be with you telling you so after 5 years. Do you really think the peice of paper is going to drastically change how you two feel for each other? I am guessing its not regligious reasons since you two already live together.
While I can understand some womens desire to have that ring to plan that wedding to be the bride with the title of wife for all to see... I don't understand why they'd even consider giving up on someone that makes them so happy for a title change.. I just don't.
If you knew he'd spend the rest of his life with you, grew old with you and care for every minute and would do so without the marriage license, would that not be enough for you?
People get divorced every day so for those that say oh marriage makes it offical and yada yada yada, well sure it does... but there is a divorce laywer on every corner downtown, and people use them as often and easily as they do a mcdonalds.
I don't know , to each their own, but you found love... and to throw it away, to even consider doing so to maybe be able to say "my husband" instead of "my boyfriend" seems so unecessary... imo.
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Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein
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