Sometimes actually, we stay through "love" but not that we are "in love" rather, a love.
Then there is pressure of family, everyone loves that person and so, you feel obligated to remain.
It takes a strong person to say I love you but I am no longer in love with you, I wonder if that is the case with him.
On the same accord, men live in fear, marriage is a commitment over and above living together, and usually involves joint finances, another fear, perhaps he is like quiet a few young men, fearing of losing what ever he has worked for, if it doesn't work out.
Marriage is a piece of paper, in my eyes, because divorce and seperation is so common these days, people don't seem to put the effort in, they originally do, then they slacken off and they lose as a result... If only they put the effort, amazingly they would see sparks fly more..
He probably feels that he is married, your living together.
He is in a comfort zone.
What you have to ask yourself seriously is how much love he shows you, attention and you him, since you moved in together, and ask yourself how much you talk, communicate over anything, things in common and how often do you laugh together.
If you have all the above, then go buy a cheap ring and place it on your wedding finger and look at him and laugh and say, bugger, this needs replacing....
If you answer not really, to the above, we don't do all that at all, since moving in together, sit him down and communicate how you feel.
Communication is the key to success, not walking, nor ignoring... what you hear may hurt and you may walk, but what you hear may make you smile and realise what's missing to make that spark alive and progress to that ring on your finger.
CW
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