Boyfriend's behavior stinks!
Okay…so this guy and I are dating for about five years now. Everything was cool for months after our dating. We spent weekends, and some days in the week together. We would always have fun and enjoy each other’s company. That’s until I told him six months in that I was in love with him. His face was one of total shock. Afterward, he seemed withdrawn for a few weeks, so I let him be for a couple of months. During the time that he was withdrawn, we hardly spoke, and I rarely went over to see him. I guess when he realized that I didn’t want to be bothered either he began calling me again. And so…we began this pattern of on an off dating.
During one of his fiascoes I stopped talking to him for a whole year. Somehow, we got back together. Again. In seeing each other this time around, he (or should I say we) were both consensual to unprotected sex, which led us to talk about the possibility of having kids together (he has none). . I know him enough to know that he doesn’t do things just for the sake of doing them. He works in law enforcement and knows the consequences of risks taken. So when he opted not to use protection, know that he understood that I could become pregnant.
To my surprise, he wants us to have kids
On the other hand, my issue with him is that he’s selfish and childish at times. He wants to answer my calls when he wants to and so forth. It has gone on for so long, that I am now at my wits end with him. I have asked him on occasion if he doesn’t think we should give it all up and go our separate ways. Of course he refuses. And yes…we’re in another season of withdrawal. He is almost 40 years old, and to me doesn’t seem like he knows what in the world he wants. I know that men are scared of commitment for numerous reasons from being burned to not wanting a woman to invade their space. I explained to him that if I find out that he has someone else, I would put my big girl panties on and leave, but he denies having anyone else. Any opinions as to why he may be acting this way?
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