Here goes! I am 47 been married for almost 27 years, three grown kids, and lost.
I recieved a phone call from an old (male) friend that I haven't heard from in over 28 years. It started out very innocent, but it was a mystery and it was great having a friend and a secret. One thing led to another and 3 weeks later we met for lunch. As our relathionship grew I became totally caught up with him and he with me. We talked all during the day or sent emails or so many text messages I can't count. We both feel hard and fast and started meeting. He actually said he loved me before we met. It was the most wonderful feeling having someone tell you everyday how much they loved you and how special you are. Several months later my husband caught me on my cell talking to him. Husband blew up and still won't stop verbal abusing me about it over 6 months later. I let him because I thought I deserved it but I can't handle it anymore so I finally told him I was done with all of it and I want to be happy again. He refuses to continue to see the therapist and says he will probably never let it go. I asked for a divorce. Where do I go from here????? 47 and divorced. It really stinks because I still have strong feelings for my secret friend but we can't communicate like we used too. What do I do???????