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Old 06-29-2009, 05:36 PM   #21
trendywendy
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Originally Posted by M&Ms View Post
Someone else wouldn't be forcing you to change yourself if you were the one who expected them to change in the first place. Unless the individual did a complete reversal in their behavior during the relationship, causing you to perceive a disappointing difference in them, how do you expect them to work around your needs? If the individual DID do a complete reversal (for example, in the situation of the starter of this thread: if the bf had been very sexually active with her in the beginning of the relationship and then all of a sudden quit), then yes, I definitely agree with you on the requirement for a compromise. When I posted my response, the thread starter hadn't indicated whether her partner had frequent sex with her near the beginning of their relationship.
Hi, in answer to your questions, we have been together 8 years before married. My hubby likes intercourse, likes sex, just seems to be tired all the time, but its not about changing someone, there are two people in a marriage, and its about trying to reach a compromise, not trying to change either partner. We did have sex more in the earlier years, but doesnt everyone? I am not asking for the world, my needs are simple, intamacy and sex sometimes, once a week is surely not too much to ask of a husband, as a wife I do all usual things, and I also pay all the bills, run a business, and have brought up 2 children (who have now left the nest) so its just us. Making love with my hubby is very intense, and fantastic, so thats why I guess I want it more than him!
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