I have also been through times, on occasion, where I just wasn't that interested in sex. It had nothing to do with my wife or being attracted to her. For some reason, I just wasn't in the mood.
First, you have to figure out a way to talk about it, if you can't, the problem will never get resolved. I told my wife that when those time arise that she is in the mood and I don't seem to be, it's up to her to help get me in the mood. She still doesn't get as aggressive about it as I wish, but just telling me she's horny, doesn't really do it for me. But, catch me getting out of the shower, or in the shower, and surprise me with a spontanious BJ, that will get me in the mood super quick. Walk around the house in the nude, (God, I can't wait till we're empty nesters, have mercy on the neighbors) or in a nightgown and show him you don't have anything on underneath...that'll do it... or LET him catch you masturbating and ask him for help.....there is all kinds of things to do, you just have to keep trying. Men are visual, so telling him your in the mood isn't going to get you anywhere...SHOW him your in the mood, that will help.....Be spontanious... Men, believe it or not, cannot read minds, or even pick up on subtle hints....
You have to change it up a little....take control and do something different....other than that, maybe it's medical. Some blood pressure meds, diet and being overweight will affect his sex drive..
I've never been a 3 times a day type of guy, more like twice a week, but then again she gets off about 5 times to my 1...so, I don't know how the math works out...
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