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Originally Posted by WildChild
Oh Dear, the pill has been around for what? close to 50 years? Used correctly it is hightly effective. Why take it if you don't trust it? The only thing that is 100% effective is celebacy.
Really many of the sex ed programs have been deplorable with this. They do so want to just tell everyone it bite their finger nails and never have sex that they make everything sound scary and ineffective. We've dealt with this topic before.
The pill will do the job IF you take it as prescribed!
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I agree with WC. Aside from tubal ligation or IUDs, neither of which is a viable option at your age, BC pills/patches/rings are the most reliable method, and using a less effective method in addition does very little to improve your overall odds.
If you are sufficiently terrified of dealing with an unplanned pregnancy through abortion, adoption, or raising it yourself that you don't think greater than 99% efficacy is enough, you really shouldn't be having vaginal intercourse. Do lots of manual stimulation, oral sex for both, and anal sex if you feel like being adventurous.
If you are on the birth control pill and taking it correctly, he is not unreasonable in asking to be able to cum inside of you. You have to learn to trust yourself to be mature enough to remember your pills every day, and learn to trust those hormones. They are powerful little buggers!
It might be a good idea to sit down with him and have a chat about the big bad what if question. Do you agree on what you would do if you became pregnant? Being able to have a rational discussion about it without reverting to knee-jerk fear would be helpful for both of you.
One other idea you could employ if you really want that extra layer of protection is a spermicidal foam or film or gel, something of that ilk. It would be much more effective than pulling out, and would let him cum inside of you. You could also see your doctor and discuss the use of a diaphragm or cervical cap. There are a lot of options out there that would make both of you happy, I think. Unless you are secretly just really wigged out by the thought of semen inside of you, in which case you still might not be happy.