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Originally Posted by MrPleazr
Sorry I didn't read all the replies, I stopped when I got to the replies that say that HE should have some say..... Are you Freakin' serious? HE should have some say? Heck NO he doesn't have a say!!! Is HE gonna help carry that baby? Is he gonna have to deal with it for 9 months, not to mention 18+yrs? No, that's BS.... If your not comfortable with it, then he either pulls (which is dumb) or he puts a rain coat on that baby. Get married, then MAYBE he at least gets to have some input.
I'm surprised how many woman on this board are mis-informed. BC pills have been the most successful form of BC, primarily due to the fact that the woman is responsible for taking them, but their effectiveness will vary from person to person. The CAN be 99% effective, but not in every woman. My son was conceived while my wife was CORRECTLY taking BC. A gentleman who works for me has two children conceived the same way. I'm certain his wife was taking them as prescribed when considering that she DID NOT want children at all...FYI, he just got snipped!!!
Not to mention, no drug is without it's side affects, BC included. My wife is still dealing with those side affects....
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Well, I used to believe that in these situations men shouldn't have a say either, but now I believe that they deserve 50% of it. Of course he's not going to be the one carrying the baby, but he was chosen by her and they are in a relationship. If she doesn't want a child with him, even by accident, and if having one would be a huge disaster then she shouldn't be having sex with him at all. If he would leave her in case she got pregnant then she shouldn't be with this man at all, that would be an irresponsible kind of man who doesn't love her.
When it comes to birth control it's a decision that has to be taken by both, not just one. A lot depends on the quality and the seriousness of the relationship. When it comes to medicine people react differently, some experience side effects some don't, that's why it's very important to discuss it all with a doctor before choosing.