Wow, i know exactly what you are going through. I have been married 17 years and in the last 7 have been experiencing the same thing. We love each other have a great family but when it comes to sex it sucks!!! No initiating from him, no sex etc. Do you have small children?? YOu mentioned seeking sex outside your marriage, have u spoken to him about this?? What was his response? I have a lover on the side who i see 2times a month and spend about 5-6 hours with him each time. And, yes we are having sex all that time. My husband is aware of it and although he doesn't care for it he does not tell me not to go. I have become attached to my lover in a physical way, as he is very affectionate, loving, touchy feeling sort of guy. That is not good. It causes me to feel like im not in love with my hubby and to be honest i do not really want to have sex with my husband as i think the sex will not be the same. I know the sex is not the same. However, i do love my husband and our life so im staying. If you do decidee to get alover be sure you are just getting sex and nothing else, no emailing, texting, cuddling etc. that is not a good thing. It complicates things somewhat. However, ido believe that sex is VERY important to a womans self-esteem and if your husband agrees then go for wtih your eyes WIDE open. I never imagines id meet a man who knows how to satisfy me over and over again. IT can cause you to doubt your marriage and feelings, be sure to be very clear with your self before doing this. Hope this is helpful, good luck.
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