Right now you don't have anything to go on but fear... fear that he created by not nipping her re-entry into his life in the bud. Not asking her to stop the goo goo ga ga love pictures himself and instead waiting for you to ask him to have her stop. That created an insecurity in you that now.. even though he may have cut off all contact you still have to worry and wonder.
I'd say to stop with the snooping, if you can't trust him, leave. If you think he deserves your trust work on finding a way to give it back to him. Talk to him about your feelings, tell him how you still worry he thinks of her, tell him why you still worry if he thinks you are just being jealous. Explain his letting her carry on the way she did made you feel he still holds interest for her.
Listen to his response to all that, let him attempt to make you feel better. Let him explain why he himself didn't break the contact when she was being out of line, or at least ask her to chill more.
If he refuses to comfort you, or ends up telling you things that lead you to believe he isn't over her, then decide if you can deal going forward with this relationship or not. But don't drive yourself crazy wondering and living in worry. No matter what happens, if he's going to go back to her -- he inevitably will, life just doesn't give us guarentees on things like love. You don't want to waste time you could be enjoying your life and him with snopping and playing detective and working yourself into a tizzy.
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Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein
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