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Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre
I'm a 27 y/o male.
If he's going every once in a while, no big deal...but if this is a weekly thing, there is probably a problem.
Special occasions, bachelor parties/vegas trips....ok fine.
I personally have little desire to frequent strip joints.
I've always found it shameful and desperate that men will pay for sex or sexual entertainment.
Plus, my fiance is hotter than any tramp at a strip joint. 
Just my .02. |
Your fiance is a lucky woman! Imagine how many women here envy her...
... Out of curiosity, I had been to such places, and it disgusts me no matter what my BF says. I thought I'd go home insecure after that, but it turned out otherwise. I had an internal battle though. I dug deep in my treasure chest and realized that I will not live my life with a partner who frequents those places. I want a man who wants me as I am and will not look for or waste his energy OUTSIDE of our relationship by going to such places. (I know this might backfire...but this is how I feel right now, and I made it known to my SO). He'll have to take it or leave it. I am stable and beautiful. Eventhough I have him, suitors still try to persuade me (not that I entertain them, but they are persistent buggers). As of now, we are OK, after the adventure and emotional roller-coaster I had... and I am happy that I was able to express how I want our relationship to be...now, it's up to him to decide whether to go on with it or not, and he knows the consequences. I know I will have to suffer it, too if he goes the other way around.
For the OP, you have to express yourself in a safe way. Don't encourage arguments to ensue. Proper timing is vital in this kind of conversation. Set up boundaries and rules in the play field - compromise. If rules are not followed, be ready to effect the consequences. This is a tough call, and I really feel for you. I felt that...I've been there. But don't allow yourself to be the underdog. You are a woman...and you deserve to be happy. Assert yourself. Be strong.