Hello Everyone,
This is my first post so please be gentle :P I've stumbled on this site a week ago or so looking for woman's opinions and thoughts on sex and men, and I'd have to say I read some very interesting and helpful things on sex and penis size and whatnot. So now I'm reaching out on a more direct level... Here's a quick background on me and my relationship:
Me:
I'm 30 yrs old and been in several failed relationships (2 of which were over 5 yrs) mostly because of other guys in some way shape or form including cheating... Usually ex boyfriends or internet "friends". Now because of this it makes me think I'm doing something wrong or I'm not enough so they look elsewhere (my confidence has been somewhat damaged). So my first 5 yr relationship was with my "high school sweetheart" (who ended up leaving me for some guy she worked with) then about 9mths later I met someone else and 5yrs and 2 children later I walked out after finding out about a 3 yr affair and ever since I've had a hard time holding on to a girlfriend (mostly due to internet "buddies" they just can't let go of from when they were single).
Relationship:
My girlfriend and I met online back in December and well we have been great together but she has been single for the past 3 years and has met a lot of guys over those years online. Going into this relationship I worried this might become an issue, but we hit it off so well I couldn't walk away... We have had a few little hiccups in the beginning involving her ex and how they were still good friends (but I think that was her just holding on just in case). She has been crushed or let down by guys over her single years and has had quite the guard up so I let it slide thinking this would pass as we got closer and more serious (and they did) but just recently I happened to peek at her phone and saw a disturbing msg to someone I never heard of... So I asked her about it, and of course she was mad and defensive at first about me looking at her phone. Then she came around and admitted that this is a guy shes been talking to on the net for 3 yrs but has never met as he is over seas... but for whatever reason she hasn't been able to let go... Now that it was out in the open and we had a few long talks about it, I think she has finally seen the light and just how good we are together and that I'm not going anywhere, that I love her to death and I'm always going to be willing to work things out. Anyway... things are good now... Well mostly...
The problem:
When we first got together we had a lot of sex... and great sex! Because we have been able to be really open with sex and communicate well, but it would seem the more serious we get the less interested in sex she is becoming... I think it might be getting somewhat boring for her (I'm trying to come up with ways to make it more exciting). I have talked to her about this and she thinks its due to "the pill" shes talking. Is this something common? I guess I'm just worried that shes missing the whole being able to do what she wants and with whoever she wants from her single life, and I worry shes upset that she had to break of these internet buddies she had... I dunno maybe I'm just being paranoid because of my past... What do you ladies think? Can anyone relate to any of this from either side? She use to be really sexually aggressive and wanted me all the time... but now... not so much, and our relationship is beginning to suffer as were not as intimately close. Theres a slight bit of awkwardness now... Don't get me wrong we still have a blast together but there would seem to be a slight disconnection in the emotional side... I don't want to become her "buddy"
