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**blondie80** · 07-03-2009, 05:50 AM

Ok so here goes blondie and her question firing lol, ok so you guys have been together a little while do you think maybe now that you guys are becoming more comfortable with each other that she is just settling down into the relationship as things become more the norm?
Also if you are the kind of guy that is worried about these things she may see this as a sign of insecurity I dont know how else to say this but be confident in yourself she is with you because she wants to be not because she is stuck, she may be missing her alone time a little coming into a relationship when you have been single for a while can be a big thing for some women and they feel like they lose themselves, does she spend much time with friends or do you guys spend every waking minute together sort of thing?
When you have come out of bad relationships its really hard to build up trust in other people, you can become insecure and clingy, this can be really hard for either of you to deal with. I met my partner online and we have been together a while now and I also had come out of a really bad relationship and it took maybe 6 months or so to get most of my trust happening, sure I trusted his judgement his decissions and day to day stuff but if something felt a little weird I would jump to conclusions because I was so used to being trodden on in the past, that is the hardest part in all of this to deal with, because I was putting strain on the relationship thinking I was sure there was something wrong. Maybe this might be something you need to work on to make this work for you guys too, you either have to come to a decision that you have to trust and take the chance that you may get hurt again but is it worth the risk?
You also need to work on the guard issue, show her how much you love her buy her flowers take her on dates run her a nice bath and not expect anything in return for a little while, kiss her and tell her you love her or just hold her and dont expect sex, alot of little things help, but also be willing to give her a little space and trust a little more in why she is with you!

07-03-2009, 05:50 AM	#3
blondie80 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 119	Ok so here goes blondie and her question firing lol, ok so you guys have been together a little while do you think maybe now that you guys are becoming more comfortable with each other that she is just settling down into the relationship as things become more the norm? Also if you are the kind of guy that is worried about these things she may see this as a sign of insecurity I dont know how else to say this but be confident in yourself she is with you because she wants to be not because she is stuck, she may be missing her alone time a little coming into a relationship when you have been single for a while can be a big thing for some women and they feel like they lose themselves, does she spend much time with friends or do you guys spend every waking minute together sort of thing? When you have come out of bad relationships its really hard to build up trust in other people, you can become insecure and clingy, this can be really hard for either of you to deal with. I met my partner online and we have been together a while now and I also had come out of a really bad relationship and it took maybe 6 months or so to get most of my trust happening, sure I trusted his judgement his decissions and day to day stuff but if something felt a little weird I would jump to conclusions because I was so used to being trodden on in the past, that is the hardest part in all of this to deal with, because I was putting strain on the relationship thinking I was sure there was something wrong. Maybe this might be something you need to work on to make this work for you guys too, you either have to come to a decision that you have to trust and take the chance that you may get hurt again but is it worth the risk? You also need to work on the guard issue, show her how much you love her buy her flowers take her on dates run her a nice bath and not expect anything in return for a little while, kiss her and tell her you love her or just hold her and dont expect sex, alot of little things help, but also be willing to give her a little space and trust a little more in why she is with you!