First I'd like to just say this is a great thread and everyone has given wonderful advice to you, these comments actually help me because I am having these same issues.
He might be talking to her and he might not. I try to not think about things like that. I tell myself "he is coming home to me every night. If he cheats I'll just leave it's as simple as that (and it is just that simple, you will find someone better if it comes down to it). I don't need him I want him. I am not going to snoop because if he wants to cheat he will. He is the one that has to sleep at night knowing what he did." It took me a very long time to be able to say those things and I still have to say them often when I start to be unsure. But you start telling yourself things enough you will believe them, just like if you tell yourself "he is cheating etc" you will believe it even if it isn't true!
Things can be pretty crazy emotionally when you are in this kind of situation, I take a deep breath, tell my self the number one thing you need to tell yourself "I don't NEED him, I WANT him!" you start thinking like that and all this won't bother you anymore. Good luck girl! I know it's hard to deal and hard work ahead!
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