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Old 07-04-2009, 05:39 PM   #3
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I'm trying to grasp the question WC.

Maybe I am not awake enough yet.

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Do people try to use or seek intense physical experience or connection in place of, or to make up for a lack of, deep emotional connection?
I don't look for an intense "physical or emotional connection", I tend to think that you allow that to "Grow" .

It took me a long time to realise that I am a beautiful person inside with alot to give, and that the more I gave, the more that was taken, but now, my belief is the more I give the more I am just being me, and in that, I will find someone whom likes me for whom I am totally and I have the same belief in whom ever I will end up with in this part of the journey in my life, they are who they are.

When I was younger, much younger, yes, i probably sought after emotional connection, deep emotional connection.

But your setting yourself up for a fall if you seek this in a person instead of growing with a person and seeing those emotions get stronger and stronger, because all you are really doing is "seeking" instead of "being".

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Is this part(or all) of the reason why some people are controlling and manipulative.
I don't see the two go together.

I believe that it's in their makeup to be controlling or manipulative, they are one sided perhaps, it has to be their way.

Put someone who wants emotional intense connection, with a controlling person and the controlling person will win because the emotional person will keep persuing this intensity, whilst the controlling one will feed off of it.

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