Its excesses... the junkie getting that next hit. Always looking for the high in love and no lows. I think it has to do with personal development. We are all at different growth phases in personal development. We get tangled up with someone on a lower stage and get drug down by a "baseness" or lowest forms of self and its an all out battle.
As people mature thru some stages I think we learn not to place all of our garbage on our s/o. We try to stay balanced and look inward at the enemy instead of outward for an enemy.
At the lower stages of development its all about me-me-me. we are happy aslong as our needs are being met don't care if we are abusing our S/O cause at this stage we are still abusing ourselves.
as we mature we are more aware of the deep emotional connection and are better equiped to handle it.
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