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**baja** · 07-05-2009, 08:01 PM

Classy_lady, I hope your friend finds this helpful...

1) How/where to meet good guys -- Well, this depends on what type of guy she wants. If the adventurous type, go to the park, go hiking, try mountain biking. If the intellectual type, try plays, theater, bookstores, etc. If she's into competitive guys, then any sporting event will work. Financially stable guys can be found at charity events, community events, chamber of commerce functions, etc. Main point is, they are out there, everywhere, but they don't advertise and probably will accidentally bump into her. She just needs to be herself and not look/sound too impatient to find someone.

2) How can you tell if a guy is a jerk/player -- Jerks are self-centered, inconsiderate and have petty issues that can be easy to spot if you take more control of the conversation. They'll show their true colors soon enough. As for players, they are overly confident, have very high opinions of themselves, typically over-flatter, can be very touchy-feely and deal in quantity. Watch for the guys working the room. The problem is players upon first glance are usually everything the typical woman wants -- nicely dressed, confident, funny, attractive, etc. You HAVE to dig deeper, usually their achillees heel is their relationship history. If you're brutal, zero-in there and the average player will provide disappointing stats or disappear altogether, lol.

3) How can you tell if a guy is married -- Be observant and you'll spot them quickly. Outside of the obvious signs (ring, white line on finger, etc), a guy might be married if... he gets evasive or guarded when asked about if he's married, has family, children, where he lives... if all contact with him is on HIS terms... if he also pays in cash for most transactions.. Note that you can usually spot a lie if someone looks down AND to the left while answering a question -- very high chance the individual is lying.

4) Does it matter if a woman is petite -- Absolutely not, but it does depend on the individual's preference. Women seem to generally prefer men taller than themselves. On the flip-side, men will generally like women shorter (factor in high heels into the height count). Ultimately height makes no difference if both individuals in the relationship are comfortable with the situation. As info, I'm 6' 2" and have dated women between 5' to 5' 10".

07-05-2009, 08:01 PM	#6
baja VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 63	Classy_lady, I hope your friend finds this helpful... 1) How/where to meet good guys -- Well, this depends on what type of guy she wants. If the adventurous type, go to the park, go hiking, try mountain biking. If the intellectual type, try plays, theater, bookstores, etc. If she's into competitive guys, then any sporting event will work. Financially stable guys can be found at charity events, community events, chamber of commerce functions, etc. Main point is, they are out there, everywhere, but they don't advertise and probably will accidentally bump into her. She just needs to be herself and not look/sound too impatient to find someone. 2) How can you tell if a guy is a jerk/player -- Jerks are self-centered, inconsiderate and have petty issues that can be easy to spot if you take more control of the conversation. They'll show their true colors soon enough. As for players, they are overly confident, have very high opinions of themselves, typically over-flatter, can be very touchy-feely and deal in quantity. Watch for the guys working the room. The problem is players upon first glance are usually everything the typical woman wants -- nicely dressed, confident, funny, attractive, etc. You HAVE to dig deeper, usually their achillees heel is their relationship history. If you're brutal, zero-in there and the average player will provide disappointing stats or disappear altogether, lol. 3) How can you tell if a guy is married -- Be observant and you'll spot them quickly. Outside of the obvious signs (ring, white line on finger, etc), a guy might be married if... he gets evasive or guarded when asked about if he's married, has family, children, where he lives... if all contact with him is on HIS terms... if he also pays in cash for most transactions.. Note that you can usually spot a lie if someone looks down AND to the left while answering a question -- very high chance the individual is lying. 4) Does it matter if a woman is petite -- Absolutely not, but it does depend on the individual's preference. Women seem to generally prefer men taller than themselves. On the flip-side, men will generally like women shorter (factor in high heels into the height count). Ultimately height makes no difference if both individuals in the relationship are comfortable with the situation. As info, I'm 6' 2" and have dated women between 5' to 5' 10".